FAQs
Most parents arrive at this page tired, confused, and quietly questioning themselves. You may have already asked for help — clearly and in good faith — and been met with delay, dismissal, or endless process. You may be wondering whether you’re overreacting, misunderstanding the system, or asking for too much. You’re not!
Common questions
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What’s the difference between raising a concern and making a formal complaint?
Schools often blur this distinction, and that ambiguity benefits the institution more than the family. Raising a concern is informal. It might be a conversation with a teacher, an email to a principal,…
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How do I know if what’s happening at school is serious enough to complain about?
Many parents hesitate to complain because they’re unsure whether what they’re seeing is “bad enough.” We all know that schools are underfunded and that classrooms are struggling. Schools rely on that uncertainty. The…
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My child is being bullied at school and the school won’t act. How can I get help?
This page addresses what to do when your child is experiencing bullying at school, the school knows about it, and isn’t doing enough to prevent/address the bullying. It covers the legal framework, the…
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My child is being excluded from school for behaviour that results from lack of support. How can I get help?
This page addresses what to do when your child is being suspended, put on a partial schedule, removed from class, or otherwise excluded from school for behaviour that is a direct consequence of…
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My autistic daughter masks at school and collapses afterwards. The school says she’s fine. How can I get help?
This page addresses what to do when your autistic daughter is camouflaging at school, experiencing significant distress at home, and the school is using her apparent coping as evidence that she requires no…
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Why does my kid melt down every day after school if they’re “fine”?
It’s common for a child to appear “fine” (or even unusually quiet, compliant, and capable) in the classroom—and then unravel after school with crying, anger, shutdown, or explosive behaviour at home. Clinicians and…
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What does education advocacy burnout look like?
You began advocating for your child’s needs at school, and you expected the process to take weeks, perhaps a term. It has been months now, or years, and something inside you has shifted…
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What if my complaint gets dismissed?
Many complaints are dismissed at the screening stage. The BC Human Rights Tribunal has discretion to refuse to accept a complaint if it determines that proceeding would not further the purposes of the…
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What if I make things worse by complaining?
Things are already bad, or you would not be reading this. The question families carry when contemplating formal complaint is whether advocacy will intensify the harm their child already experiences. This fear is…
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Will the school retaliate against me?
Retaliation is illegal under the BC Human Rights Code. Section 43 explicitly prohibits adverse treatment against anyone who files a complaint or participates in a human rights process. The law recognises that retaliation…
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What are the rules for my district’s complaint process?
Every district must have a complaint process. This is the Ministry’s Board-Level Student Appeal Guidelines. This is the law. These documents are a bit difficult to parse, so here’s a plain language gist:…
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Can I appeal a decision to the BC Education Ministry?
A Section 11 appeal is a formal process under the BC School Act that allows parents and students to ask the Superintendent of Appeals to review certain school district decisions. It is often presented as the main accountability mechanism…
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If district complaint/appeal processes are deeply flawed, what should I do?
It’s a marathon, not a sprint. Understanding that these processes are largely not adequate and making sure you exhaust them quickly, is your best chance of finding relief. Treat every concern as if…
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Why do schools dismiss parent concerns about disability?
Parents often hear a similar response when they raise concerns about a child’s disability: “We support all students.” Schools may explain that everyone gets flexibility, everyone receives help with transitions, or that classroom strategies…
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Is complaining worth it?
That is for you to decide. But the question deserves reframing. Most families arrive at this page already exhausted, already years into informal advocacy that has produced marginal improvement at extraordinary personal cost.…
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Is it normal for the process to take this long?
Is it normal for the process to take this long? Delays are common, but they are not always legitimate. Extended timelines can themselves constitute a barrier to access, particularly when accommodation is time-sensitive…
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Can a school deny accommodation without giving a reason?
No. While this happens often in practice, accommodation decisions must be based on clear reasons and evidence. Failing to explain why a request is denied is usually a procedural mistake that matters in complaints…
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Why does the school keep asking for more documentation?
Schools often say they need documentation to “understand the student” or “make informed decisions”. In some cases, specific documentation is genuinely relevant. But when requests become excessive, repetitive, or open-ended, documentation starts serving…
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Why do I feel like I’m being treated as the problem?
Why do I feel like I’m being treated as the problem? Systems that deny accommodation often shift scrutiny onto the parent once refusal becomes difficult to justify. Labelling parents as difficult functions to…
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Am I being unreasonable or asking for too much?
Requesting legally required accommodation is not unreasonable. Feeling “too much” is a common effect of repeated denial, tone policing, and procedural delay—not a reflection of the legitimacy of your request. What the law…