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PDA
Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is a profile associated with autism that describes an extreme anxiety-driven need to resist everyday demands or expectations. Individuals with PDA may avoid requests through distraction, negotiation, or refusal when demands feel overwhelming or threatening to autonomy. Support approaches typically focus on reducing pressure, offering choice, and building collaborative relationships rather than relying on rigid behavioural expectations.
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Don’t wait for an apology to heal
The apology is probably not coming. It is worth saying plainly, before anything else, because so much of what keeps families suspended in the aftermath of institutional harm is the unspoken anticipation of it — the sense that healing cannot properly…
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How do I protect my child emotionally while pursuing a complaint?
Complaints are stressful for the whole family, and children are perceptive in ways that adults consistently underestimate. A child does not need to overhear a specific conversation to absorb the tension that a complaint process generates — they feel it in…
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Solving problems at school: institutional harm patterns
This page addresses the patterns of institutional behaviour that compound the original harm — gaslighting, information withheld, goalpost shifting, advocacy punished as aggression, and tone policing — and the complaint pathways available when the system’s response to your concern becomes a…
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Solving problems at school: crisis, restraint, and safety
This page addresses physical restraint, isolation, crisis intervention, and unsafe school conditions in BC schools, and specifically their impact on disabled and neurodivergent children, who are disproportionately subjected to these practices. A child in crisis is a child whose nervous system…
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Solving problems at school: punitive discipline and behaviour systems
This page addresses punitive discipline and behaviour management practices in BC schools, and specifically their impact on disabled and neurodivergent children, who bear a disproportionate share of their harm. When a school applies a behaviour system to a disabled child without…
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Solving problems at school: accommodation and IEP failures
When a school fails to accommodate a disabled child, it rarely announces the failure plainly. The accommodation does not arrive; the IEP goal sits unimplemented through term after term; the education assistant’s hours are quietly reduced without consultation; the psychoeducational assessment…
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Solving problems at school: exclusion and removal
Exclusion takes many forms in BC schools, and most of them have been given names designed to obscure what they are. A “gradual entry plan” is a partial schedule. A “room clear” is the isolation of a disabled child in an…