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Fight, flight, fawn, freeze are common automatic responses of the nervous system when a person perceives danger or overwhelming stress. Rather than conscious choices, these reactions are survival mechanisms that help the body attempt to stay safe. Fight may appear as anger, argument, or physical agitation; flight as avoidance, leaving, or attempts to escape; freeze as shutting down, becoming quiet, or being unable to respond; and fawn as appeasing others through compliance or people-pleasing in order to reduce conflict. In school settings, these responses can occur when students feel unsafe, overwhelmed, or under intense pressure. Behaviour that looks like defiance, withdrawal, avoidance, or excessive compliance may reflect a stress response rather than deliberate misconduct, which is why understanding nervous system responses can help educators and families respond with support and regulation rather than punishment.

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